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B.C. asked to reimagine masculinity as part of Men91裸聊视频檚 Mental Health Month

91裸聊视频楾he gender expectation that we put on men and masculinity is unnecessary and doubles down the harm91裸聊视频
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Men have been disconnected from their emotions and a male liberation movement is needed for men, said Carol Bilson, director of operations at the Anti-Violence Project (BPD file Photo)

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As the calendar turns to June, it is now Men91裸聊视频檚 Mental Health Awareness Month, an area that91裸聊视频檚 often overlooked.

Men are over-represented in all of these statistics around being unhoused, drug abuse, alcohol abuse and suicide, said Carol Bilson, director of operations at the Anti-Violence Project.

91裸聊视频淎bout 70 per cent who commit suicide are male,91裸聊视频 she said.

In 2022, of the more than 227 British Columbians who died of suicide, 184 were men. Additionally, there were 2,511 toxic drug deaths in 2023, and 71 per cent of those were men, according to the BC Centre for Disease Control.

While the feminist movement did wonders for feminism and what it meant to be a woman, said Bilson, a similar movement within men is needed but has yet to happen.

91裸聊视频淥ur society just hinders men91裸聊视频檚 capacity to connect and relate to others,91裸聊视频 she said.

This can mean having a more challenging time processing trauma, dealing with rejection and becoming violent towards either the person they were interested in or themselves.

91裸聊视频淭he gender expectation that we put on men and masculinity is unnecessary and doubles down the harm.91裸聊视频

Suicide is the second or third leading cause of death for men aged 19 to 44 and for men aged 15 to 25. Outside of motor vehicle accidents, there is little else killing them, said John Oliffe, research chair in the Men91裸聊视频檚 Health Research Program at UBC.

For many years, we91裸聊视频檝e discussed how traditional ideas of masculinity may have been unhelpful to many men, Oliffe said. Now, there91裸聊视频檚 a focus on the concept of toxic masculinity and the negative behaviours associated with it.

91裸聊视频淲hen you91裸聊视频檙e young, you especially buy into the norms that guide your identity, your role, and sometimes your values, which can be persuasive for many young guys.91裸聊视频

Bilson said young men and boys are told to bury most of their emotions and are often left with two feelings 91裸聊视频 anger and happiness.

91裸聊视频淲e haven91裸聊视频檛 created a society where it91裸聊视频檚 safe for men to feel. We don91裸聊视频檛 want to be in proximity to men suffering. Two things have to happen. We must get close to men91裸聊视频檚 pain and suffering and understand what91裸聊视频檚 happening.91裸聊视频

Bilson previously worked with abuse survivors and was compelled to start helping to heal men after listening to the women she had been counselling.

91裸聊视频淎s someone who supports survivors of violence and someone who works with men, I feel like we cannot separate those two. The health and mental health of men determines the safety of women.91裸聊视频

Gender expectations, in general, are archaic, but expectations around masculinity have not been needed for a long time, Bilson said.

91裸聊视频淎ll those things left these old notions that only men provide and protect. And that91裸聊视频檚 all we require of them, to bring home the bacon. We did a disservice to men, genuinely,91裸聊视频 added Bilson.

91裸聊视频淢en are being asked to reimagine masculinity, and I think it91裸聊视频檚 because of society91裸聊视频檚 ideas of what women were supposed to do, and who was supposed to bring the income and who was supposed to raise children. All of that has been completely flipped on its head.91裸聊视频

Increasingly, some young men have started turning to 91裸聊视频榯oxic91裸聊视频 male influencers.

91裸聊视频淭he masculinity that they91裸聊视频檙e projecting, first of all, is a familiar masculinity,91裸聊视频 Bilson said.

It doesn91裸聊视频檛 ask people to change, she said.

91裸聊视频淚 always say, the patriarchy sells men fake power. It91裸聊视频檚 an external power. And it91裸聊视频檚 a fake power structure.91裸聊视频

More men are needed in caring professions like nursing, therapy and education, said Carl Haynes, Men91裸聊视频檚 Education & Research Coordinator at the Anti-Violence Project.

91裸聊视频淲ith the baby boomers aging out and going into retirement and old age, there91裸聊视频檚 going to be an increased need for these care professions,91裸聊视频 Haynes said.

An increasing lack of male educators has also worried Haynes, as there is a lack of positive male role models for young men.

91裸聊视频淭his is where you see other men stepping in, through social media and filling the gap,91裸聊视频 Haynes said.

In May, Our Place in Victoria surveyed the unhoused along Pandora Avenue.

91裸聊视频淚t is about 77 per cent,91裸聊视频 said Grant McKinnon, communications director at Our Place. 91裸聊视频淯sually, it is about 80 per cent.91裸聊视频

On the vulnerability index, when it comes to the unhoused, men are less likely to move into supportive housing, with the average age of a male on the street being 55.

When it comes to unhoused youth, about 63 per cent of young people in shelters are male.

The reasons why men and women are unhoused are complex, but generally, men are not running and hiding from abusive spouses. And men might find themselves on the street after a mental health concern or an injury.

There is a lot of shame around being unhoused, even for those who eventually find a house. Many men do not want to share their experiences for fear of being negatively judged, said McKinnon.

91裸聊视频淎dding to the problem, men often go into the bushes like a wounded animal and isolate themselves,91裸聊视频 McKinnon said.

It is up to men to help fix other men. Women have been doing the heavy lifting for too long, according to Bilson and is one of the driving forces behind a popular social media trend where women are choosing to find a metaphorical bear in the forest rather than date a man.

91裸聊视频淚t is a very legitimate concern. Because the struggle might be ongoing and permanent, and to be assaulted, to be sexually assaulted, to be abused, to be humiliated, has long-term lifetime impacts.91裸聊视频

It will be a one-time experience, and it91裸聊视频檒l probably be done, versus a long time of suffering and trying to recover your self-esteem and sense of self-worth,91裸聊视频 Bilson said.

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