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People of privilege called on to support queer community after 91Ƶhate crime91Ƶ in Kelowna

City Councillor Ron Cannon said all people should be respected after a surge homophobia
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Loyal Wooldridge. (Contributed)

Leaders in Kelowna91Ƶs community have noticed a rise in hate speech against marginalized people, and want to urge people of privilege to stand up against the negativity.

91ƵI don91Ƶt want you to stand behind me. I want you to stand beside me and sometimes, you will need to stand in front of me,91Ƶ said Darrien McWatters, a business manager, prominent hockey coach and referee, parent and transgender woman.

McWatters is speaking out after a recent incident when a young girl was publicly misgendered at a track and field competition and is calling on allies of diverse people to stand up and speak out against hate. She explained that straight, white people should not expect marginalized communities to bear the burden of addressing hate on their own.

McWatters said that when she says that cis-gendered, heterosexual men have inherent privileged, she is speaking from decades of experience. While she now identifies as a trans woman, McWatters did not come out as transgender until her 40s. She said that she lived with the privilege of presenting as a straight white man for many years.

In an interview with Capital News, Kelowna City Councillor Loyal Wooldridge said that the public needs to start calling out trans-phobic behaviour like what transpired at the track meet.

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91ƵThis is a strategic movement to target marginalized communities91Ƶthis is hate,91Ƶ said Wooldridge.

After speaking out, the councillor was subject to a surge in hate-filled and homo-phobic emails.

Woolridge called on those that are not part of a marginalized group to take a stand and recognize that homophobia is something that queer people experience everyday.

91ƵUse your voice, do not remain silent,91Ƶ said Wooldridge.

When asked about the backlash that fellow city councillor Wooldridge has received, Kelowna City Councillor Ron Cannan said 91Ƶwe need to treat people with respect.91Ƶ

Cannan said that the community needs to stand together, but that 91Ƶunity does not mean uniformity.91Ƶ

Darrien McWatters said “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” (Jacqueline Gelineau/Capital News)
Darrien McWatters said 91Ƶif you can91Ƶt say anything nice, don91Ƶt say anything at all.91Ƶ (Jacqueline Gelineau/Capital News)

McWatters further commented that everyone should be celebrated for their diversity and uniqueness.

She encourages all people, but particularly youth to 91Ƶbe your authentic self, don91Ƶt just fit in, find a place where you feel belonging.91Ƶ

McWatters explained that having a sense of belonging is important for everyone, but particularly children. When someone singles a child out of a group for being different it can be traumatizing and upsetting.

She urges allies to think about what it would feel like to be excluded from the things that they love, like sports.

91ƵAllow people to have their place in sport,91Ƶ said McWatters.91ƵWe just want to belong somewhere91Ƶ The alternative to accepting people is excluding them.91Ƶ

McWatters said that one way that allies can be supportive is by using people91Ƶs preferred pronouns and correcting people when they misgender someone.

When faced with hate, McWatters said to remain calm, control your emotions, and 91Ƶkill them with kindness,91Ƶ adding the reminder, 91Ƶif you can91Ƶt say anything nice, don91Ƶt say anything at all.91Ƶ



Jacqueline.Gelineau@kelownacapnews.com

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